Kerry Romano Zall What is love?
It’s a question that many people have been pondering for centuries. Love is the most powerful emotion in the world. We all want to be loved, and we all want to give love. Love can heal wounds, mend broken hearts, and bring us closer together as humans. And what about our planet? When more people realize this truth–that love is the highest vibration–then maybe then there will be peace on Earth!
There are many people in the world who defend themselves against un-forgiveness. This has to do with fear of letting go of whatever happened between them and the perpetrator. The act of forgiving someone can be difficult because it might involve trusting that person again, putting emotional distance, removing unfair judgments against them, and assuming good intentions.
For me, I will choose love and forgiveness over fear and negativity any day.
Who am I to judge another as unworthy of forgiveness? Some people may have been conditioned to forgive like a child, so the idea is easy for them. They have no idea how deep resentment can feel living inside someone or what it would take for that person to forgive again.
In my case, I’ve realized and accepted that holding onto anger and resentment only hurts me and no one else.
Forgive others as you want to be forgiven.
Maybe people are afraid of letting go? Maybe they’re triggered?
Having hope is important because what’s there to forgive if everything is already perfect in your life? Yes, forgive yourself for not being able to forgive yourself and move on with your life. You don’t have to be hard on yourself for being stuck in the forgiving and forgive cycle, because that’s a part of life.
Everyone is human so accept your mistakes and move on from them with love.
Hate is a low vibration, love is high vibration. Love rules because it’s powerful and can heal people, so why do humans stay in fear/hate instead of love when love could conquer everything else like forgiveness?! I forgive all my haters and forgive the universe for not forgiving me sooner. It’s hard to forgive because of fear, but when you forgive yourself for whatever mistakes you made in life, it can encourage forgiveness towards other people who are trying to correct their mistakes.
When people realize that love is a very powerful tool–love can truly rule everything else like peace on Earth because it’s our highest vibration! Love conquers fear and hate, so why do some humans stay in their own state of being triggered? The only way to break through pain is love, so forgive yourself for whatever you did and forgive the other person because forgiveness is key to your wellbeing and health.
People don’t forgive people because they choose to wear a suit of armor, it’s their protection. Why is it easier to shut someone out? When we’re hurt, when we’re jilted or feeling sad, our natural reaction is to retreat within ourselves. We think that by doing this we’ll somehow be protected from future pain or heartache as if keeping ourselves away from the situation will keep us away from feeling bad. It’s a protection mechanism.
Forgiveness is very spiritual; it’s an act of love. We all have to let go in order for love to truly conquer everything else when it comes down to forgiveness.
To love without fear is the greatest act of love. It is a sign of truly doing the inner work and growth. It is up to you to break the cycle and truly learn the lessons that present themselves.
Let go of all the negative emotions you have against others, so you can live a more prosperous life.
Do you realize what your psyche does when you have an unforgivable heart? This will lead to self-destruction because humanity is all about forgiving and forgetting.
Yes, forgive yourself first, and in return forgive others. Why hold on to this negative energy that only brings that in return. Remember what goes around comes around. Sometimes twofold. I rather live a lighter life full of prosperity, than hold on to a grudge, that’s heaviness.
How does forgiveness affect your health?
Forgiveness is a key to your health and wellbeing. Why hold on to anything when you can forgive everything?
The more you forgive, the better your life will become because forgiveness can heal all wounds.
When you forgive yourself for making mistakes, that’s when love takes over! Why be hard on others. I have done a lot of research to date, and one article really stood out more than others at Mayo Clinic they list some key points below:
What is forgiveness?
Forgiveness means different things to different people. Generally, however, it involves a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge.
The act that hurt or offended you might always be with you, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help free you from the control of the person who harmed you. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy, and compassion for the one who hurt you.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting or excusing the harm done to you or making up with the person who caused the harm. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life.
What are the benefits of forgiving someone?
Letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for improved health and peace of mind. Forgiveness can lead to:
- Healthier relationships
- Improved mental health
- Less anxiety, stress, and hostility
- Lower blood pressure
- Fewer symptoms of depression
- A stronger immune system
- Improved heart health
- Improved self-esteem
Why is it so easy to hold a grudge?
Being hurt by someone, particularly someone you love and trust, can cause anger, sadness, and confusion. If you dwell on hurtful events or situations, grudges filled with resentment, vengeance and hostility can take root. If you allow negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice.
Some people are naturally more forgiving than others. But even if you’re a grudge holder, almost anyone can learn to be more forgiving.
What are the effects of holding a grudge?
If you’re unforgiving, you might:
- Bring anger and bitterness into every relationship and new experience
- Become so wrapped up in the wrong that you can’t enjoy the present
- Become depressed or anxious
- Feel that your life lacks meaning or purpose, or that you’re at odds with your spiritual beliefs
- Lose valuable and enriching connectedness with others
How do I reach a state of forgiveness?
Forgiveness is a commitment to a personalized process of change. To move from suffering to forgiveness, you might:
- Recognize the value of forgiveness and how it can improve your life
- Identify what needs healing and who needs to be forgiven and for what
- Consider joining a support group or seeing a counselor
- Acknowledge your emotions about the harm done to you and how they affect your behavior, and work to release them
- Choose to forgive the person who’s offended you
- Move away from your role as a victim and release the control and power the offending person and situation have had in your life
As you let go of grudges, you’ll no longer define your life by how you’ve been hurt. You might even find compassion and understanding.
What happens if I can’t forgive someone?
Forgiveness can be challenging, especially if the person who’s hurt you doesn’t admit wrong. If you find yourself stuck:
- Practice empathy. Try seeing the situation from the other person’s point of view.
- Ask yourself why he or she would behave in such away. Perhaps you would have reacted similarly if you faced the same situation.
- Reflect on times you’ve hurt others and on those who’ve forgiven you.
- Write in a journal, pray or use guided meditation or talk with a person you’ve found to be wise and compassionate, such as a spiritual leader, a mental health provider, or an impartial loved one or friend.
- Be aware that forgiveness is a process, and even small hurts may need to be revisited and forgiven over and over again
I choose to live a consciously healthy life where I try to have a positive impact on people I come into contact with. I only want to help people see and embrace their inner light. And give them the proper tools to take themselves to their higher potential. So for me, I can’t operate on a low vibration. I see the glass half full. Yes, I am an alchemist. I surround myself around like-minded human beings, that help me see and embrace my own gift sets and teach me the tools to take myself to my higher potential. I move forward daily and gravitate toward a higher intellectual mind. I pay attention to the signs and learn from them.
I’m constantly working on myself so I can be the best version of myself. The choice is yours to make, to give or not. I choose Love. It’s an easy choice for me.
“Peace will come when the Arabs will love their children more than they hate us.”
-Golda Meir
In a Comfortable State of Gratitude,
Kerry Romano Zall
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