Stephanie Y Jolivet we need to change the term “self-care”.
when this thought first occurred to me, i substituted to myself the term, “me-time”. but then i thought again, and realized that actually BOTH phrases point to the ego, a human construction. indeed, an IMPORTANT one as it certainly does identify who we think we are, and constructing an identity is what we are able to do WITH the universe, being the badass co-creators we are.
both the “self” and “me” are personas of the brain. and “self-care” as I now have come to embody it is really about ALIGNMENT – physically, by choosing actions that calm into our parasympathetic nervous system, and spiritually, by giving us a chance to align ourselves to the vibration of LOVE. yes – love: “luxurious, open, vibrational energy” (and yes for those of you who asked with the last episode/blog, i DID coin that meaning; actually, i co-created it with Source y’all!).
how do we find that alignment? well, guess what – there’s a reason going for a walk, or getting your hair done, or giggling with your baby, or taking a bath are all traditionally seen as “self-care”. endorphins, cranial nerves, oxytocin, and oxygenated blood all physically help to stimulate the parasympathetic nervous system, the one we want to live in more, the “rest and digest” side of the “fight or flight” proverbial coin. it’s here, in the calm center of our physical body that we can be receptive and thus tap into that vibration of love with ease.
going deeper into the calm part of that beautiful gift of being human here on earth, our physical BODY – regardless of what it does, be it take a vacation, get fresh air, head to the beach, or get a pedicure – allows this kind of care transcends itSELF. by viewing “self-care” in this light, we can begin to perceive it as tapping into the vibration of LOVE in INTENTIONAL MOMENTS throughout our day – every day – and to add a significant point – in order to shift the UNIVERSAL vibration toward love.
so… those little acts of kindness and love toward the physical body in this 3D plane transmute into 5D moments of vibrational alignment with love. they actually cause change in the larger vibration and have the power to shift IT toward LOVE. that’s pretty radical, y’all ? all those times you thought you were doing something for “you” or being “selfish” are actually little honey drops into the communal elixir of LOVE!
and with that understanding, the term “self-care” just doesn’t cut it anymore. here’s the renaming i’d like to propose: the more we SPRINKLE moments of physical calm and vibrational love throughout our day, every day – touching your naked feet to the cool grass, taking a conscious breath, turning off the phone for 5 minutes to simply be with your kiddo, squeezing your partner to you for a deep 30 second hug – the more we all benefit.
so i like the phrase SPRINKLES OF ALIGNMENT both because it conjures up sprinkles, those sweet little bits of color on dessert treats (and i have a sweet-tooth, oh yes!), and it also connotes little drops of things over a period of time. it’s more manageable, it’s cute, and it’s of the small-steps-make-big-change variety.
for short, we could use SPRINKLES, as in, ”hey, i’m heading out to get my sprinkles on today!” as you prepare for a walk, or “mmmm… i just want to sprinkle with you a little longer” as you squeeze your sweetie.
not only does this term allow us to continuously linger in the vibration of love in little though significant moments – “amuse-bouches” if you will – and not get overwhelmed with the all-or-nothing-Vegas-girls’-trip-or-whatever-the-media-says-self-care-should-look-like, it’s also a sweet term that kiddos can understand. and because i have one of those #tinyhumans now, i’ve been thinking of the long-term goals for Justin-Thilou’s life. tapping into the vibration of LOVE is, uh, pretty high on the list!
so let’s let go of that loaded term “self-care”. recycle it; put it out to pasture; let’s do that in order to SHIFT into a different vibration, one that allows LOVE to come easily and often throughout our day. EVERY day.
