Women, focus on your own needs and purpose

“The most remarkable thing is that now I focus more on my own needs, purpose, and passions. I am happier than I have ever been, …...

Women, focus on your own needs and purpose

“The most remarkable thing is that now I focus more on my own needs, purpose, and passions. I am happier than I have ever been, …...

Physical and Emotional Intimacy in a Relationship

In our work, we often coach and teach couples about physical and emotional intimacy in a marriage or long-term relationship. In preparation for our Possibilities …...

Protecting The Vulnerable Parts Of Your Relationship

Have you ever had a hard time softening and reconnecting with your partner after being hurt, misunderstood, or unfairly blamed? Is it challenging for you …...

Relational Disconnection

I’m reading a great book called Why Are All The Black Kids Sitting Together In The Cafeteria by Dr. Beverly Tatum. In the chapter I was …...

Relationships in the Digital Age

Some time back, my daughter asked me to rub her back. I noticed myself hesitate. My addiction to my phone took over – I wanted …...

Relationships Issues And High Expectations

  As a younger man, I really wanted to find “The One”. I was much too private to tell anyone, but I wanted a happy-ever-after …...

Safety vs. Adventure In Relationship (And How To Change When You Don’t “Feel Like It”)

As individuals, and in relationship, we have two conflicting needs. One is for stability, familiarity, intimacy, and safety. The other is for newness, adventure, risk, …...

Sex In A Relationship Is Last On The To-Do List

Isn’t it funny how we always put sex and pleasure in a relationship last on our list of priorities? Well, more sad than funny, really. …...

The Best Relationship Lubricant: Happiness

The first time I heard it said that happiness is something we choose, I thought to myself, “Ha! That’s some refrigerator-magnet BS!” At the time, …...

The Importance of Feeling Heard

Just last week, a woman sent me an email saying, “I am so sad and frustrated that my husband doesn’t listen to what I say!” …...

The Subtle Ways Trust in a Relationship Is Broken

I was coaching a couple this week about how they take turns getting angry and shutting down in silence. During our session, she said she …...